Comments on: Eulogy: Knowing My Mother-in-Law

By: Tim

Tim — Wed, 17 Jan 2007 13:42:02 +0000

Mom Sandy, I wish I knew what to tell you. It sounds like there are huge issues there, much larger than just a simple MIL/DIL relationship. My only suggestion would be to sit back and wait, hard though it may be. If your son misses the communication like I would expect he does, then he will find a way to re-establish the connection with you. Until then, by not communicating with you (or sitting down with his wife and working it out), he’s demonstrating that he’s made a decision–by not making one. As you’ve observed, it’s sad for everyone, your DIL included. – Tim

By: Mom Sandy

Mom Sandy — Thu, 14 Sep 2006 03:41:29 +0000

I am getting a bad rap of being a bad MIL. My MIL hated me and I always told my son I would not be the mother in law that that I had. However, My daughter in law is so hard to understand. I’m not to have anything to do with my son…she is now first priority. GOOD! I just want to continue to be his mom and his dad wants to be his dad. Still wants to watch ball games with him and take him out to eat once in awhile. I still want to cook his favorite foods and buy him a nice shirt once in a while. I tried for 3 years to make my DIL like me but I give up, it’s not worth it. We can’t call our son because she only talks to her parents one every 2 weeks. Hey, we had communication and consideration while our son was growing up and now that he married our DIL he’s not allowed to call or come home anymore. I miss my son. DIL get to know your in laws, if they are anything like us we just want to love you as much as we do our son. Quit doing the humiliating thing to him: You will lose him going that route, love his family, let him love yours, it will be so much nicer for both of you.

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A Fool and his Words are Soon Parted » Search Potpouri — Tue, 31 Jan 2006 04:04:33 +0000

[...] Running a close second is the eulogy I wrote this past summer for my mother-in-law. Some people were searching for a “bad mother eulogy,” while others were looking for a good mother-in-law joke. Oddly enough, I think she would have appreciated all the various searches. [...]

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A Fool and his Words are Soon Parted » Parenting Advice #2 — Wed, 04 Jan 2006 17:33:57 +0000

[...] The second big piece of parenting advice came from my mother-in-law. Now, to suggest that I saw eye-to-eye with her is wildly inaccurate, but it’s just as inaccurate to portray her as my nemesis. Regardless of my feelings about her, I realized that she knew a thing or two about childrearing, so I paid attention to her advice (which I received, whether I wanted it or not ) In short form, her most oft-quoted advice was this: Don’t send your children places; Go with them. [...]