Comments on: Putting the “Fun” in Funeral http://timthefoolman.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/ Stream of consciousness rambling about technology, theology, and "parentology" Wed, 09 May 2012 00:35:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Christopher http://timthefoolman.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-13890 Sat, 24 Sep 2011 04:37:25 +0000 http://timthefoolman.wordpress.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-13890 when my grandfather passed away my brother told a joke in the funeral home and we laughed a little bit. A man came up to us, of whome we did not know, and told us he thought it was inapropraite for us to be laughing at such a time. My brother turned to him and said these exact words “who are you to tell us how to grieve?” Those words from my brother made good sense to me. We all need to grieve in different ways. Laughter can be good, when my best friend died my other friends and I were telling jokes the whole way to the funeral. We cried when we saw our friend in the casket, left the service room and started telling jokes again in the lobby. Emotion can be a funny thing sometimes…

]]> By: Rich McClure http://timthefoolman.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-13513 Thu, 16 Jun 2011 20:20:23 +0000 http://timthefoolman.wordpress.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-13513 I always enjoyed your Dad and Mom. I would have loved swapping funeral tales with them.

]]> By: Connie http://timthefoolman.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-13512 Thu, 16 Jun 2011 17:30:07 +0000 http://timthefoolman.wordpress.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-13512 You know Tim, the day we are born we start dying so I just don’t get the big deal of being so surprised when someone dies. The timing may not be our choice but we are all gonna’ go!!! Just the other day I was telling Kate exactly the way I want it done and she laughed and laughed–exactly the way I want it that day.

]]> By: Christopher James Conner http://timthefoolman.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-13339 Fri, 06 May 2011 12:33:05 +0000 http://timthefoolman.wordpress.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-13339 Very interesting story, I like the perspective. We are working on a project that will put more of this kind of feeling into the overall funeral process, I think it’s long overdue….losing someone doesn’t have to be dark and depressing.

]]> By: TimTheFoolMan http://timthefoolman.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-12902 Wed, 12 Jan 2011 15:35:12 +0000 http://timthefoolman.wordpress.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-12902 If you’re going to give me attribution, I have no problem with it. I’ve been considering the same thing. – Tim

]]> By: Christopher Herber http://timthefoolman.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-12794 Mon, 06 Dec 2010 17:49:49 +0000 http://timthefoolman.wordpress.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-12794 Hi Tim,

Would you mimd if I use your stories in a book?

Chris

]]> By: lwayswright http://timthefoolman.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-12148 Sat, 03 Jan 2009 00:12:14 +0000 http://timthefoolman.wordpress.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-12148 That is all so funny. My family is exactly the same way! At grandma’s funeral we all got the giggles so hard it was difficult to make it through the funeral…and we all had to sing! Mom’s death, while very sad and hard for me to deal with her loss, was also handled with humor…you can read that story on my blog! It’s called “saying goodbye with laughter”. I totally appreciate what you say here!

]]> By: Tim http://timthefoolman.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-10206 Wed, 27 Jun 2007 03:54:15 +0000 http://timthefoolman.wordpress.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-10206 Beth,

I am so sorry… I know that “it’s a part of life,” but I also know that’s little consolation. For me, the consolation came in finding all of these little things that Mom would have found hysterical. It sounds like the same thing happened for you. Thank you for sharing the laughs here. – Tim

]]> By: Beth Johnson http://timthefoolman.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-10205 Wed, 27 Jun 2007 03:42:58 +0000 http://timthefoolman.wordpress.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-10205 What a wonderful story. My mother passed away yesterday, and my sister and I have had several “gut busters” since. That is the way Mom would have wanted it. I think the folks at the “fun”eral home thought we were nuts.

]]> By: Marie (the EXTREMELY younger sister) http://timthefoolman.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-9820 Thu, 14 Jun 2007 17:27:21 +0000 http://timthefoolman.wordpress.com/2006/01/25/putting-the-fun-in-funeral/#comment-9820 This is all true, but here’s one tidbit he left out: Our dear mom, who had lost her upper teeth in a car accident when she was 16, was buried sans teeth. (Her “uppers” had been removed in the ambulance while they were trying in vain to resucitate her, and somehow those precious choppers never made it back in once it was all over.) False or not, Mom probably had the most glorious smile you would have ever seen in your life, and I’m happy to say that she showed that smile with great regularity. That said, while she was known for clowning around with her kids and grandkids by taking out her teeth and chasing us around the house, she would have never been caught dead without them in public. Nonetheless, there she was, dead in public without them. (The irony!)

Without a doubt, the first question I’m sure I will hear from Mom after a joyous greeting beyond the pearly gates will be: “I could care less if you bury me without my legs, but what in the world made you think you could get away with propping me up in an open casket WITHOUT MY TEETH?????”

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