Comments on: Art of Failure Part 2: 3 Ways to Learn from Negative Feedback

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Fri, 18 Apr 2008 16:06:05 +0000

[...] Three Rights Make it Right There are probably lots of parents, coaches, and bosses who use different strategies than the three I’ve mentioned here. Even so, the strategies I’ve shared here seem to be common to a vast majority of highly intense, frequently negative coaches, parents, and bosses. There’s obviously no guarantee that if you say negative things, the recipient will respond with increased focus/effort. In the follow-up to this entry, I’ll talk about the other side of the equation: How to Accept Critical/Negative Feedback. [...]

By: Rod E. Smith, MSMFT

Rod E. Smith, MSMFT — Fri, 17 Nov 2006 10:32:55 +0000

Dear Tim:

FYI – Richard McChurch has posted again after quite a long silence…..

Thanks for the steady stream oif persons who come from your blog to mine – I hope it is reciprocal……

Rod Smith

By: Jeff Fuson

Jeff Fuson — Thu, 16 Nov 2006 20:24:22 +0000

Tim,
Good stuff here. Litlove said that she’d spent a lifetime trying to do the unattainable and suggested that we choose our battles. More and more we’re finding this to be true. Marcus Buckingham has done some great work centered on discovering your strengths and aiming most of your efforts there. I couldn’t agree more with his approach to life and zeroing down to where we can make the highest contribution for the highest good.

By: seandbe

seandbe — Sun, 12 Nov 2006 19:31:29 +0000

Good message,and thought. I loved the dig at Gore. LOL!
Every day you learn, from the good the bad and the Ugly. Take the leson’s that are given to us every day.

By: Tim

Tim — Sun, 12 Nov 2006 01:16:03 +0000

Interesting. “Pick your battles” was a phrase my Mom used more than any other when giving me parenting advice. I think you’re on-target in applying it here too.

Please note the emphasis on “(But Be Fair)” in the heading. It’s one thing to set a goal that is just beyond the edge of your last big accomplishment. It’s another to be completely unreasonable. For example, regardless of how much I may want to play in the NBA, I do not possess the natural ability (or height), and am way past the age at which even superstars were able to play at that level.

This is the dilemma for most Christians. How do we strive to be “Christ-like” in our behavior, when it’s clear that it’s beyond the realm of any human being, and not get endlessly discouraged? Striving to be better than I was yesterday, in some regard, is a healthy compromise.

As always, thanks for your insight and comments! – Tim

By: litlove

litlove — Sun, 12 Nov 2006 00:42:35 +0000

Tim, I agree a lot with what you’re saying. However, I am the first person to be my own harshest critic, and I’ve made a lifetime’s work out of striving for the unattainable. As a result I’ve now got chronic fatigue. All I want to add to your excellent explanation is: pick your battles. I’ve learnt the hard way that you can’t do this all the time. It’s a good approach for the things you feel most passionate about in life, but it doesn’t work as a life style.