One Sport Ends, Another Begins February 15, 2008
Posted by Tim in Parenting/Children, Sports.Tags: children, parenting, self-esteem, Sports, wrestling
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It’s now official, wrestling season is over.
My youngest son, to the surprise of the entire family, not only decided to wrestle, he accomplished a number of surprising things. What’s even better? The things he accomplished that can’t be counted in the win/loss column. (more…)
On Blessings, Children, and Wrestling Mats November 21, 2007
Posted by Tim in Coaching, Communication, Family, Love, Parenting/Children, Self-Worth, Sports.6 comments
From the Amazon.com description of “The Blessing,” by John Trent and Gary Smalley:
…the life-changing gift the Bible calls “the blessing.” The unconditional love and approval that comes with the blessing is an important element of our self-esteem and emotional well-being. And many of us–perhaps unknowingly–spend a lifetime striving for this acceptance.
I love this book, and recommend it highly. However, of late, I’ve seen the reverse effect: My sons have found unexpected ways of blessing me, the parent. (more…)
Big Time-Spender or Big-Time Spender? August 23, 2007
Posted by Tim in Communication, Family, Flatulence, Fun, Humor, Laughter, Love, Parenting/Children, Self-Worth, Sports, Stupidity, life.3 comments
One of the notable songs from Billy Joel’s “Streetlife Serenade” album from 1974 was a song called “The Last of the Big Time Spenders.” The chorus includes the following line:
…I’m the last of the big time spenders
And I’ve been spendin’ time on you,
An eternal truth that’s too easy to forget is that money is distributed unevenly, but time is doled out in equal amounts. None of us get more than 60 minutes in an hour, 24 hours in a day, or 365 days in a year.
Recently, a very good friend remembered my love of “Hook,” the Robin Williams & Dustin Hoffman version of the Peter Pan story, and bought the DVD for me for my birthday. The most significant reason I love this movie? It’s a constant reminder to spend time with my sons, and more important, how I should spend that time. (more…)
Back to School: Year 2 August 20, 2007
Posted by Tim in Blogging, Celebrities, Coaching, Discipline, Exercise, Family, Fitness, Flatulence, Food, Football, Love, Nutrition, Parenting/Children, Sports.3 comments
Once again, we’ve taken our oldest son back to college, moved him in, and said our “goodbyes.” Though I would have presumed that sending him off to school would be easier this year, it wasn’t.
What made it harder? The myriad of ways we spent time together this Summer. (more…)
“NFL” Means “Not For Large” Screens (in Church) February 4, 2007
Posted by Tim in Church, Football, Fun, Humor, NFL, News, Religion, Sports, Stupidity, super bowl.2 comments
In what appears to be the second major PR faux pas of the 2006-2007 season, the National Football League has (for all intents and purposes) said that viewing their games in a bar is acceptable, but watching in a church is not. Now, to be fair, Fall Creek Church in Indianapolis was being pretty stupid. They were charging admission to come to the church to watch the Super Bowl at their “Super Bowl Bash.”
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Moment of College Sports Zen: Local TV Irony January 8, 2007
Posted by Tim in Coaching, Football, Sports, Success.add a comment
Last night, WHAS-TV ran one of those 5-second “Congratulations to UofL and Coach Petrino for winning The Orange Bowl. I had to laugh though.
While the still frame of the team & coach were being displayed under this voice-over, a news blurb was running at the bottom of the screen:
Special Update: Coach Bobby Petrino to leave Louisville as Head Coach to lead the Atlanta Falcons.
I think Petrino’s making a mistake, and would have done well to have discussed this with UofL’s Men’s Basketball coach, Rick Pitino (Pitino had a… shall we say “less than successful” transition from UK to the Boston Celtics). On the other hand, Petrino’s worked in the NFL before (as a quarterback’s coach), so he should know what he’s getting into. In addition, his past behavior has not exactly shown him to be a man who felt obligated to stand by a written contract or his verbal commitment to the community, so this shouldn’t come as a huge surprise to the community.
In the end, like it or not, college football is a business, just like the NFL, and the reality of this is that “business ethics” is generally an oxymoron. It’s a lousy message to send young men (both players and recruits), and I wish it weren’t that way, but that doesn’t change the reality.
Grace, Delivered by a Child November 25, 2006
Posted by Tim in Communication, Discipline, Family, Football, Love, Parenting/Children, Self-Worth, Sports, Stupidity, anger.3 comments
Grace.
It’s a simple word, and one that takes on a variety of meanings in today’s culture. For instance, we may “say grace” or say that someone “exhibits a certain grace” when they move.
Or, we might experience the strange wonder of undeserved forgiveness. This is what the Apostle Paul talks about in the New Testament book of Romans. Typically, parents expect to be the “givers of grace.” A more amazing grace is that which can be delivered by your child. (more…)
Art of Failure Part 2: 3 Ways to Learn from Negative Feedback November 10, 2006
Posted by Tim in Coaching, Discipline, Education, Exercise, Family, Football, Learning, Love, Management, Parenting/Children, Self-Worth, Sports, Success, Workplace, anger.6 comments
In the first half of this essay, I talked about ways to give effective negative feedback. This is difficult, because we’re conditioned to be negative in unhealthy and destructive ways, which encourages some to abandon negative communication altogether.
I’m convinced that negative feedback has been given a bad rap. Regardless of whether it’s in connection with correcting the behavior of children, players, or subordinates, I’ve seen evidence that some of the greatest in any particular field seem to draw inspiration and strength from past failures. Ultimately, where’s the balance? Why is it that negative feedback has such a positive effect on some, but such a negative effect on others? How much is it dependent on the recipient? (more…)
The Art of Failure Part 1: 3 Ways to Make Negative Feedback Effective September 25, 2006
Posted by Tim in Coaching, Communication, Discipline, Family, Football, Learning, Love, Parenting/Children, Self-Worth, Sports.2 comments
In electronics, taking the output from a circuit and sending it back to the input is called “positive feedback.” This configuration tends to find an optimum mode or frequency, and reinforces it. However, if left unchecked, positive feedback can “runaway.” Even if you’re unfamiliar with electronics, you’ve probably experienced the downside of this phenomenon when a microphone starts picking up the output from a speaker (even in a hearing aid), and you get a telltale “squeal” (more formally called “oscillation”)
In contrast, changing the polarity of the signal and doing the same thing is called “negative feedback.” Done properly, this tends to reduce distortion at the output, and makes the amplified signal more closely resemble the input. Though not as susceptible to “runaway,” too much negative feedback in a circuit can be bad too, as it can completely negate any gain of the circuit. Nature abounds with systems that depend on both positive and negative feedback, and social systems are no different. After looking at the nature of both, I’m going to share three ways that I’ve found to make the most of negative feedback. (more…)
Dumbed Down Sports: The Poor Player Subsidy September 21, 2006
Posted by Tim in Baseball, Coaching, Football, Fun, Learning, Parenting/Children, Sports.2 comments
This afternoon, a friend and I were talking about “Fall Ball” in a local recreation league. She was complaining that an obscure rule (no infield plays made by outfielders) made this league very frustrating for her son, who plays in several other leagues. Due to scheduling issues (she’s a single parent), it’s not practical for him to participate in the more competitive leagues.
This reminded me of when my sons played YMCA Basketball (where the players were required to stand on “X” markers placed on the floor), and other youth leagues where the already confusing rules of adult game become even more complex when the adults try to “help” younger players learn the game by coming up with countless variations of the rules. (more…)
