Commitment, Breakups, and Occupational Infidelity October 1, 2011
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Recently, I experienced a breakup. Even when we started the relationship, we knew that it would end, and we knew that the end of the relationship would bring pain, regardless of which one of us initiated it. Although she knew, without question, that my heart was divided, and not exclusively hers, we entered into the relationship with eyes wide open and plunged forward. There was no formal commitment (though a relationship as deep and strong as this one would typically be the foundation of a serious commitment), but there was definitely the implication of one.
Having had a variety of relationships, both great and horrible, this breakup might not seem like the kind of thing that would impact me deeply. Hadn’t I, going from one relationship to another, and sometimes being in more than one at a time, become a “player”? Such types don’t get deeply or emotionally involved, but instead use their partners for selfish and self-serving motives, and tend to move on to greener pastures with little thought to those they leave in their dust.
Why then, has this been such an emotional thing for me? Why did I delay the last moments in this relationship, dragging them on for as long as possible? Why was I feeling so… defeated by this? (more…)
Web Series: The Brothers Barbarian September 29, 2011
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In May of 2011, several friends and I got together at The Doe Run Inn in Brandenburg, KY and filmed six episodes of a web series called, “The Brothers Barbarian.” In the coming weeks, now that everything is online and the furor of post-production is behind me, I’m going to try to blog about the development of the web series, some of the issues we faced in shooting it, and a handful of random thoughts and observations about this kind of endeavor.
I hope you enjoy watching it (links below) as much as we had making it. Cheers! (more…)
Parable: The Holes are Still There September 28, 2011
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This story is not, to the best of my knowledge, rooted in an actual event. I’ve heard several variations, and have quoted one of the shorter versions on this very blog. However, there is a longer version that I heard recently, and it bears repeating here, though this is most definitely my paraphrase and interpretation. The lesson, unfortunately, is one that I’m still learning.
Years ago, a farmer and his wife were sitting down to dinner with their teenage son. The son (behaving as teenagers have a tendency to do), was upset with his parents over what he perceived to be unfair rules, which they had put in place for his protection.
Unable to see their rules as a sign of love and caring, the son lashed out lashed out and said, ”You are the worst parents in the world. I can’t believe the way you treat me. I hate you! I hate you! I hate you!!!”
The farmer, boiling with anger, said nothing. Instead he stood up, pointed to the son’s room, and waited until his son received the all-too-clear message. Being stubborn, but not stupid, the son quietly got up from the table, walked quietly to his room, and shut the door. For the rest of the evening, not a word was spoken by anyone in the house. (more…)
My Blogging Absence August 1, 2009
Posted by TimTheFoolMan in Blogging.Tags: Investing, Love, Priorities
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An open letter to my friends, near and far, who keep up with me by reading this blog:
As anyone who’s read this blog regularly has long since noticed, I took an unplanned hiatus from blogging during the last 5 months. This wasn’t so much of an intentional thing as it was a matter of me not feeling particularly inspired to write. (more…)
Unemployment, Week 2 March 5, 2009
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I’m now several days into this unemployment thing, and a couple of things have caught my attention. I’m still processing this, but felt that the observations were worth noting. (more…)
